How often do you bring something up but it almost immediately gets your spouse on the defensive? Next thing you know you're blaming each other for various things that may not even be related to the topic you were trying to discuss. When you learn to talk in ways that encourage a discussion you can resolve issues, come up with compromise, and create emotional intimacy instead of distance.
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What would happen if you could learn to talk to each other in effective and nurturing ways?
What if you could fully forgive?
You might feel like you've fully forgiven something in the past but you're still hanging on to a little bit of something. Hurt, anger, resentment, etc. What will like be like when you fully let go of it all and live fully in the present, looking froward to the future instead of hanging on to the past? Whether it's your spouse, someone else, or yourself forgiveness is the key to freedom.
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What if you were to better nurture your own well-being?
As you begin nurturing your self, and practicing true self-care, you will recognize that you've always done your best with what you had to work with, and you can give yourself grace. You can love yourself and be proud of yourself. As you get in touch with your deeper self, you will begin to see what you need and how to meet those needs in ways that nourish you without feeling selfish. As you care for yourself in positive ways and keep your own cup full you will show up better for your loved ones and have more to give from your heart instead of out of a feeling of duty.
What if parenting didn't have to be so draining?
Being a parent is a big job! There is not other role in life that will teach you as much, bring as much joy (and stress), or feel as rewarding (and draining).
You can learn to help your kids work with you instead of having you feel like they're fighting you on everything.
As the atmosphere in your home shifts you will notice your kids getting along better.
Everyone wants to feel heard and seen. As those in your home begin to feel understood you will notice many problems begin to lessen or dissolve.
You can learn to help your kids work with you instead of having you feel like they're fighting you on everything.
As the atmosphere in your home shifts you will notice your kids getting along better.
Everyone wants to feel heard and seen. As those in your home begin to feel understood you will notice many problems begin to lessen or dissolve.
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What would happen if you could learn to talk to each other in effective and nurturing ways?
How often do you bring something up but it almost immediately gets your spouse on the defensive? Next thing you know you're blaming each other for various things that may not even be related to the topic you were trying to discuss. When you learn to talk in ways that encourage a discussion you can resolve issues, come up with compromise, and create emotional intimacy instead of distance.
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What if you could fully forgive?
You might feel like you've fully forgiven something in the past but you're still hanging on to a little bit of something. Hurt, anger, resentment, etc. What will like be like when you fully let go of it all and live fully in the present, looking froward to the future instead of hanging on to the past? Whether it's your spouse, someone else, or yourself forgiveness is the key to freedom.
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What if you were to better nurture your own well-being?
As you begin nurturing your self, and practicing true self-care, you will recognize that you've always done your best with what you had to work with, and you can give yourself grace. You can love yourself and be proud of yourself. As you get in touch with your deeper self, you will begin to see what you need and how to meet those needs in ways that nourish you without feeling selfish. As you care for yourself in positive ways and keep your own cup full you will show up better for your loved ones and have more to give from your heart instead of out of a feeling of duty.
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What if parenting didn't have to be so draining?
Being a parent is a big job! There is not other role in life that will teach you as much, bring as much joy (and stress), or feel as rewarding (and draining).
You can learn to help your kids work with you instead of having you feel like they're fighting you on everything.
As the atmosphere in your home shifts you will notice your kids getting along better.
Everyone wants to feel heard and seen. As those in your home begin to feel understood you will notice many problems begin to lessen or dissolve.
You can learn to help your kids work with you instead of having you feel like they're fighting you on everything.
As the atmosphere in your home shifts you will notice your kids getting along better.
Everyone wants to feel heard and seen. As those in your home begin to feel understood you will notice many problems begin to lessen or dissolve.
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Hi! I'm Vauna
In 2008 I was separated from my husband, barely coping as a mother of 4, overwhelmed, and an emotional disaster.
I didn't know how to take care of myself and I was barely taking care of my kids. I didn't practice self care and I didn't know how to set boundaries to protect my well-being and that of my loved ones. I was still learning how to follow my heart and my soul regardless of what others told me I should do.
While preparing divorce papers, something spoke to my heart: "Not yet, let's see what he does with this".
After a 3 year separation, we were able to fully reconcile. And now together we’ve spent well over a decade on a journey of personal growth and healing, in addition to focusing on learning how to effectively nourish our marriage. We’ve each learned to take control of our own emotional state and well-being. Our marriage and family are thriving in ways I never knew were possible.
We’ve both had to forgive deep wounds that would have ended most marriages. But what we found on the other side was a haven, a beautifully sculpted garden that we have carefully crafted and nurtured which brings us deeper love, joy, and connection than I’d ever dreamt of.
In addition to personal experience and intense study, we've each obtained several trainings and certifications including NLP (NeuroLinguistic Programming), Timeline Therapy®, and Hypnotherapy. Together we've helped over 100 individuals and couples overcome patterns, behaviors, and beliefs that endanger marriage and family.
I'm Vauna. I'm a mother of 6, step-mom to 3, wife of 21 years, I was a teen mom, I'm a grandmother of 5, I had my last baby at almost 40. I've been raising kids for 30 years and have a way to go until they're all grown. It's been a lot of trial and error. But I'm dedicated to constantly improving in this marriage and parenting adventure.
Having a great marriage and raising a family is the best part of my life, it's the trickiest and the most rewarding thing I've done. My family brings me tremendous joy. Yours can too. I'm looking forward to sharing my experience with you.
I didn't know how to take care of myself and I was barely taking care of my kids. I didn't practice self care and I didn't know how to set boundaries to protect my well-being and that of my loved ones. I was still learning how to follow my heart and my soul regardless of what others told me I should do.
While preparing divorce papers, something spoke to my heart: "Not yet, let's see what he does with this".
After a 3 year separation, we were able to fully reconcile. And now together we’ve spent well over a decade on a journey of personal growth and healing, in addition to focusing on learning how to effectively nourish our marriage. We’ve each learned to take control of our own emotional state and well-being. Our marriage and family are thriving in ways I never knew were possible.
We’ve both had to forgive deep wounds that would have ended most marriages. But what we found on the other side was a haven, a beautifully sculpted garden that we have carefully crafted and nurtured which brings us deeper love, joy, and connection than I’d ever dreamt of.
In addition to personal experience and intense study, we've each obtained several trainings and certifications including NLP (NeuroLinguistic Programming), Timeline Therapy®, and Hypnotherapy. Together we've helped over 100 individuals and couples overcome patterns, behaviors, and beliefs that endanger marriage and family.
I'm Vauna. I'm a mother of 6, step-mom to 3, wife of 21 years, I was a teen mom, I'm a grandmother of 5, I had my last baby at almost 40. I've been raising kids for 30 years and have a way to go until they're all grown. It's been a lot of trial and error. But I'm dedicated to constantly improving in this marriage and parenting adventure.
Having a great marriage and raising a family is the best part of my life, it's the trickiest and the most rewarding thing I've done. My family brings me tremendous joy. Yours can too. I'm looking forward to sharing my experience with you.
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