In 2008 I was separated from my husband, barely coping as a mother of 4, overwhelmed, and an emotional disaster.
I didn't know how to take care of myself and I was barely taking care of my kids. I didn't know about self care. I didn't know how to set boundaries to protect my well-being (and that of my loved ones). I didn't like myself but I desperately needed to learn how to.
While preparing divorce papers, something spoke to my heart: "Not yet, let's see what he does with this".
I had to learn how to follow my heart regardless of what others told me I should do. Because almost everyone I cared about was encouraging divorce.
My husband and I began the process of rebuilding ourselves and our relationship, while legally separated, living in different states.
After a 3 year separation, we were able to fully reconcile. And now we’ve spent 16 years learning how to rebuild and effectively nurture our marriage.
We spent the first 5 years learning how to communicate effectively, how to work through hard things together, how to replace anger and resentment with compassion and connection.
We’ve both had to forgive deep wounds that would have ended most marriages.
But what we found on the other side was a haven, a beautifully sculpted garden that we have carefully crafted and nurtured which brings us deeper love, joy, and connection than I ever dreamed of.
In addition to personal experience and intense study, we've each obtained several trainings and certifications including NLP (NeuroLinguistic Programming), Timeline Therapy®, and Hypnotherapy. Together we've helped over 100 individuals and couples overcome patterns, behaviors, and beliefs that damage or destroy marriage and family.
I'm Vauna. I'm a mother of 6, step-mom to 3, wife of 22 years. I was a teen mom. I'm a grandmother of 6. I had my last baby at almost 40. I've been raising kids for 30 years and have a way to go until they're all grown. It's been a LOT of trial and error. But I'm dedicated to constantly improving in this adventure called Marriage and Parenting.
Marriage and family are the best part of my life, the most complicated and the most rewarding thing I've ever done. My family brings me tremendous joy. Yours can too. I'm looking forward to sharing my experience with you.